5 Ways you can lower your stress when travelling

I do not personally suffer from anxiety and panic attacks when travelling but I know many people do. Hundreds of thousands of people have to overcome their fear and suffer through stress just to get to work and many have to miss out on destination they wish to visit. Whenever I am travelling I try to remind myself that many people on this bus or flight are going through hell just to get somewhere and I try to be understanding.

But travelling can get stressful for people like me who do not suffer from a condition. Especially flying can be very hectic and make you feel anxious. I don’t know what about you, but I am always scared I forgot something, my luggage will be oversized, I will end up at the wrong gate – and there’s always delays. And as understanding as I am trying to be, I always find myself being annoyed. I turn into Grinch and I am especially allergic to seemingly parentless children running around. And being this negative actually feeds into my stress.

As I am trying to listen to my body and mind better and live happier and healthier life, one of my goals is to limit the stress and anxiety I feel when I travel. Not only because I live in London and often travel back home but simply because I love travelling and want to explore the world without committing triple homicide in the check-in area.

1| Plan and prepare

Okay, this is my way to mitigating stress in most areas of my life – obsessive organiser over here! I am learning to not go crazy when planning things with less organised people but when something is up to me, I plan.

Even if you don’t mind bit of a mess, being prepared and organised can really help lower the stress levels when travelling and it is worth taking time to make sure you are ready for your journey. This is true for small trips and big ones – knowing where your oyster is and that it is topped up to avoid jamming the barriers during the commute or ensuring you have your passport and boarding pass.

Being organised for your commute or travelling is also a great excuse to buy some lovely accessories which will help you stay organised.

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2| Figure out your route and an alternative

As I mentioned, I generally don’t suffer from anxiety attacks when travelling with the exception of last year when I was yelled at by a taxi driver because I didn’t have enough cash on and he didn’t want to let me go to a cashpoint in the airport. This episode was an exception to what I want to advice you here on because I actually did check my journey numerous times but UK train system just failed me this time.

I normally reach my zen when and switch to vacation mode as soon as I know I am on the right train, on time, heading in the right direction. I also double check how long my journey will take and always count in an extra time. I think this is important especially if you are in a foreign country. Londoners know their way to the four (sorry Southend) London airports by heart and can anticipate the delays and changes in the schedules and I assume that’s the same for your own town/country but I personally don’t feel this confident in different cities.

3| Stay hydrated

Of all the fad diets and wellness recommendations that we are bombarded by daily, one you can count on is the positive effects of drinking enough water. We are about 60% water so a few drops more won’t hurt you. Actually, it can help your body and mind a lot whether you have a stomach ache, headache or can’t breathe.

Staying hydrated also helps your body and brain to function normally and be able to handle stressful situations like a delayed arrival at the airport better. We are so accustomed to AC, polluted air and circulating ‘used’ air indoors that we sometimes fail notice the effect this environment has on  us. Drinking water wakes up your mind and helps fight the numbing effects of overused air typical for overcrowded  means of public transport.

I recommend getting a reusable water bottle. There are hundreds of types, cute ones, branded ones or more tekkie ones too. More places (including airports) now provide water points where you can refill your bottle too, so don’t worry about the security check liquid limit if you are flying.

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4| Read a book or listen to a podcast

Simply distract yourself and your stressed brain. Personally, reading works better for me because I tend to focus more intensively on something I am reading than listening to, but this is down to you and your attention.

However, I also found out that what stresses me the most about airport halls or busy trains is the noise. It makes me feel really restless and annoyed to the point when I just want to get up and shout Shut up. When I am feeling this particular, audio annoyance coming, putting earplugs in and listening to something works better. I also listen to podcasts on my actual flight to drown out the noise of the air plane.

5| Talk to someone

You have two options here and I am big fan of both. You can either face time, call or just send a text to your family, friends or a partner to distract yourself, or you can talk to a fellow traveller. I know this is not an option for some people as talking to strangers isn’t for everyone but I like to meet new people and enjoy small talk. I met one of my friends like this as we shared a flight as well as bottle of wine.

Having a conversation requires attention and redirects your brain to something else than the stressful surroundings.  I believe it is better option than trying to distract yourself by work too, as this could add another level of stress rather than help you relax.

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Send me on my way

I think we have to accept that travelling does come with stress. Some people suffer more than others but I believe these tips can help you relieve at least some of the tension you might be experiencing. Remember to plan your journey, be careful about all timings and drink plenty of water. If everything fails, resort to retail therapy in duty free shops.

How do you handle travelling? Do you suffer from anxiety? Do you have any helpful tips on how to handle the stress that comes with travelling? Remember that sharing is caring!

Best scents for a relaxing living room

We’ve recently moved flats in order to escape a very loud upstairs neighbour. While I love our new flat, we unfortunately can still hear every single footstep of the girl who lives above – damn those wooden floors.
In order to stay sane amid my growing concern that I will again not sleep for 6 months and we’ll pack our backs in eight months when our contract finishes, I decided to bring as much calmness and peace into our apartment to minimise the effects of the noise.
One of the best ways to bring some calm atmosphere is to decorate the place, particularly with candles and other low-key sources of light. Below I listed some of my most favourite candles which bring at least a little bit of zen to my mind when I am drawing a map of my upstair’s flat in my mind as she stomps about.

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1| Neom

Neom has some amazing home fragrances both in form of candles and diffusers. They come in different ranges, based on what effect you are looking for. I got the De-stress candle for Christmas because the flat situation makes me reasonably on edge, but they also have candles to help you sleep, boost your energy or relax. They even have one to make you happy! They are a bit pricier than my usual candles, but they are worth it as they last longer and have a very strong scent which fills up the room without being aggressive.

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How to survive in London – year one

I have now been living in London for three years and a couple of weeks. I’d love to say that I fell in love with the city on the first tube ride but that would be a lie. My relationship with London has evolved over the years and sometimes took a detour too. I still experience waves of negative and positive feelings about London and I haven’t decided yet whether I’d want to spend the rest of my life here.

I decided to pin down some crucial experiences from each of my London years. I hope they will help you understand how I feel about London and possibly help you avoid some mistakes I’ve made.

Let me start with the first year, 2015. What did I learn?

1|I lived in two shared houses and had my money stolen

Renting is one of my least favourite things about London. Finding a flat is a daunting task. I made the mistake of not arranging any secure accommodation before coming to London and made my life tiny bit more difficult by not having any address to start with. The first house was in one of the poorest and most dangerous neighbourhoods of London – given how many places there are to live, how lucky was I? -, it was a cold and old house with weird strangers living in it. My housemates included a Spanish prostitute which didn’t communicate, a French boy I’ve exchanged two words with, an older Brazilian couple which loved telenovelas. But there were also two lovely girls that I am still friends with.
I found the room on Spareroom and arranged a viewing with the guy whose room I was gonna take. I gave him the deposit money and what I trusted to be the rent amount. I found out two weeks later that the rent is actually £200 cheaper and he was overcharging everyone in the house. I remember panicking and thinking I am going to end up on a street. My parents were supporting me as I didn’t have a job (yet] but I knew it wouldn’t be enough. I remember I cried for hours because I was scared I got into trouble. I guess the advice I’d give myself back then from today’s perspective is ‘calm down, it will be alright’. Panicking didn’t help. I wish I wasn’t so hard on myself, I wish I didn’t blame myself and I wish I learnt how to ask for help and accept it. I know this today and I do let people help me way more than I did three years back. It is okay to ask for help and it is okay to accept it. The tables are going to turn one day and you will have a chance to help someone too, so let karma work that out.

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How to maintain positivity in your relationship when everyone else is breaking up

Me and N celebrated a two year anniversary recently. When we met I was sure I never want to be in a relationship again and I couldn’t imagine dating a street musician with waist-long dreadlocks, thinking that my dad is never ever going to approve. Now we live together and we are able to support each other through any sh*t we need to. I was unemployed for half of our relationship, N is getting ready to quit his job and start off in a new industry and we are dealing with our terrible living situation. On top of that, my anxiety is taking the best of me on those few days that we actually get to spend with each other due to the opposite working schedules. But here I am – happy.

Which surprises me, given my own relationship history and the number of toxic relationships I see around myself. Abuse, cheating, desperation. If you’ve ever been in the same position, when only a handful of your friends is in functioning relationships and the rest burst into tears or orders tequila shots whenever you open the topic, don’t let that get you down. It can be very hard and bring annoying doubt into your own relationship – no matter how confident you are with it – but the key is to remain positive and not compare your relationship to others.

1 Help your friends but don’t let them tear you down

More of my friends are coming to complain to me about their failing relationships lately. Whether that is a crush, friends with benefits dead-end, cheating or just sadness of being single, the ratio of negative to positive is around 80 to 20. I love my friends and I want to help them. I volunteer my hours (and liver) to discuss their problems and offer the best advice I have. And pay for the wine.

I understand they are in a sad situation which clouds their judgment so I am not surprised when they try to turn the table and analyse my relationship. Tell me that I should be suspicious too, that all men cheat and that the fact we don’t want to get married (like ever) is a lack of commitment from my boyfriend.

If you are experiencing similar backlash from your friends, it is understandable you might start to feel insecure about your relationship. But remember that this insecurity and the reasons for it are completely external, that someone imposed it on you. Yes, sometimes insecurity creeps in and if it comes from within you, then it is worth exploring why (see point 4), but if you suddenly want to check your boyfriend’s phone because your friend told you to, don’t. Remember you didn’t feel like this before your friend told you and trust your own gut and relationship.

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Five steps to take if you’ve just moved to London

I will always remember getting off a delayed coach in the Victoria station and facing the overwhelming buzz of the station, stunned and scared. The size and beat of London, represented by the station on an autumn day in 2015, was one of many shocks I experienced in London and learning how to fight my way through crowds was just one of many things I’ve learnt. After three years of living in the capital, many things come naturally to me and I feel confident and safe – well at least about 50% of the time.

Moving to London on my own without knowing anyone in the city was the most terrifying and empowering journey of my life so far. However,  I did not come unprepared and I knew what were the first steps I wanted to take to when setting up my life, having previously checked various forums. To give you a quick overview, I listed things that I see as essential steps for any newcomer to London. Unfortunately, I can only provide guidance for those coming from the European Union pre-Brexit, although some of those tips apply to anyone. I also attached links to relevant websites for more information or any pre-registration necessary.

1 | Find somewhere to stay or a someone with an address

Obviously! I have previously written a guide on renting in London, but the truth is you might be more comfortable staying in a hostel or hotel when you first move to the city. If you are moving for work, this might even be something your employer takes care of or if you are a student, there is the option of halls. Whatever it is, you should find a place that you are going to stay for at least a week or two and use it as a base. You will find it hard to take the steps described below if you do not have somewhere to stay and address that you can use on official documents.

Some people come to the city and stay with their family or crush on their friends’ sofas and that is perfectly okay. The importance of this step is not so much your comfort but the address you will be giving to the bank and the council.

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What have you actually learnt in university and how to use it in your adult life

I have been missing university lately. You probably think that I am talking about the parties, fewer responsibilities and eating pasta three times a day without regrets. Yes, I miss those, although I still happily eat pasta three times a day without a second thought about carbs, I miss how my energy and time were almost entirely dedicated to learning. It was days, weeks and years to learn and explore.

When I started to think about how much I miss university, I soon realised that putting my university life and life after into a contrast n is wrong. Many of us have taken their lives in completely opposite directions than what they were ‘meant’ to be according to their degrees, and this might make one think that university is a separate episode in the life of those who are lucky enough. But that is not true. I believe that by remembering things we did at university and, more importantly, our mindsets, we can enhance our lives after graduation.  Try and bring a little bit of the student in you back rather than trying to suddenly transform into someone who only thinks about university when they deal with a hangover on a Saturday morning, praying to have their 19-year old body. When I reminded myself of the basic rules I followed that made my university years successful and worth remembering, I realised I can easily do the same now.

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1 Focus

Firstly, being focused is about paying attention like you’d do in a lecture. Listen to your boss, colleagues, friends and partner. Be present. There are a million things that go through my mind when I am at my desk. What am I gonna cook for a dinner? Why is my skin so bad lately? Taxes to pay… but now I remind myself to focus on one thing or task at a time and switch off the rest of my brain. In a way, I reset my brain to the less stressful time of my life – when I didn’t have to pay taxes – and this way I am giving the present person or task my full and undivided attention.

Secondly, choosing your university degree was about focusing on one particular subject you enjoyed. Maybe it wasn’t what you wanted to do as a career or it was the only program you were accepted onto but you were able to keep the focus and take appropriate steps to achieve a focused goal.  Let that inspire you when you set goals in your life or career. Write a list of things you need to do – like you would write down the modules you needed for credits; research classes and opportunities – like you did with extracurricular activities; and network with the right people – like you would for group tasks.Read More »

Save ’em for a rainy day

London is famous for its rain and gloomy weather. Coming from continental Europe, it took me some time to get used to how quickly but quietly the seasons change at this island. You can experience spring, summer, autumn and winter in one day in London but you can also forget summer is a season at all.

Fortunately, this summer, even England experienced very warm temperatures and not only for one day. While most people complained about the heatwave, I enjoyed the hot days. It was easy to plan my days and evenings when it was warm – all the London parks became very inviting and rooftops were places to be.

However, with the temperatures taking (hopefully) a temporary dip this week, there is now space to plan some indoor activities. If you are bored of the same old Netflix and chill, take a look at my recommendations below. Those are some activities and destinations I explore on rainy days, no matter the season.

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